The Wedding Day- Gowri Pooja and Kashiyatra
KASHIYATRE – CONVINCING GROOM FOR GRUHASTHASHRAMA
- This is a ritual in which the Groom wishes to go off to Kashi on a pilgrimage leaving behind worldly desires.
- Normally the groom wears a kacche panche called Sankalke panche and wears a Mysore turban on which a Bashinga is tied. He also wears slippers. This is his traditional attire
- He carries with him an Umbrella, a walking stick, Beesange(fan) and a bag filled with rice and coconut.
- All these items are decorated in colours to give it a grand look.
- He is made to carry a decorative coconut also.
- The bride’s father requests the groom to return back and marry his daughter.
- The groom’s feet are washed by the bride’s father and the bride’s brother holds the umbrella.
- In some customs, a pair of kodbale prepared with rice flour is fixed on the groom’s ears as earrings by the bride’s mother and a decorative mirror is held in front of him.
- The event is filled with fun and frolic.
- A path of flowers is laid out for the groom’s return to the stage.
GOWRI POOJA – BLESSINGS FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
- Prayers are offered to Goddess Gowri for a happy and long married life.
- This puja is carried out in a room which is beautifully decorated with lovely backdrops and flowers.
- Decorative Gowri is kept for pooja along with a silver Mangala Gowri plate.
- Rangoli and flower decoration highlights the setup.
- Normally the bride’s mother or an elderly lady of the house instructs the bride to do the puja.
- In most of the customs, the bride dons a white kanjeevaram saree with a saree draped on the shoulder.
- Bashinga is tied to the head. This is the traditional attire.
- The bride’s mother ties a ‘Thali’, considered to be symbolic from the parent’s side
- Usually, a group of ladies sings the ‘Lakshmi shobane’ for the prosperity and happiness of the couple.
- 5 decorated Morada bhagina consisting of Dhanya items, Haldi kumkum, bangles, blouse piece, and Sumangali set is kept. Also, coconut and betel leaves are kept.
- One grand bhagina is given by the bride to her would-be mother in law.
- The remaining 4 bhaginas are given to elderly ladies.
- All the ladies are offered Haldi kumkum and other gifts and the bride takes the blessings from all.
ANTARPATA – JEERIGE BELLA SHASTRA
- This is an event in which the groom and bride are supposed to see each other for the first time.
- The bride is accompanied by her maternal uncle to the stage.
- To make the event special and colourful, a flower path is laid for the bride. Sometimes the girl is brought in a big decorated doli just to accentuate the function.
- The groom and bride are made to stand opposite each other in separate decorated baskets also called ‘Mettaki butti’. Also called as Chiblu
- A tere shalya or a decorative antarpata is held between them by the purohits.
- The bride and the groom are given jeerige bella in their hands.
- The purohits chant the mantras relevant to the occasion.
- At the end of the chanting, the antarpata is removed and the boy and girl put jeerige bella on each other’s head.
- This is another important event of a marriage which is highlighted in the background by tunes of nadaswara.